I've been her co-parent for years, but now I want to be a family

DEAR DEIDRE: SIX years ago a friend knocked on my door with a baby boy in her arms and from that moment, a special bond was formed.

She was only 18 while I was 21. She fell pregnant after some scumbag took advantage of her while she was drunk.

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She said her parents would go mad, so I agreed to be her child’s surrogate father.

The boy is six now and I regularly take him out at weekends. Sometimes he stays at mine. It’s wonderful.

A couple of years ago she had a second boy by somebody else.

I’m 27 now and I went to pick up “my boy” last weekend for football but the second guy was there and said I couldn’t take him without his younger brother.

I was happy to take them both, leaving him dumbfounded on the doorstep.

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I love these kids and their mum, but I worry I’ll always be second best.

Do you think there is a chance for us to be a proper family?

DEIDRE SAYS: If something was going to happen between you, it would have happened by now so don’t put your life on hold any longer.

You have no rights over the children but if you are the father figure in her children’s life, then perhaps she’ll allow you to continue to see them.

My support pack called Finding The Love Of Your Life may help you to find a relationship with somebody who’ll give you 100 per cent.

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